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asphaltcowgrrlOkay, disclaimer: I'm exhausted today. Never mind how much stress I'm under at the moment. So, if this comes off exceedingly bitchy, I apologize.
The majority of my friends are all in different time zones. The closest is my BFF who is an hour ahead of me half the year (she lives in Arizona which doesn't observe Daylight Savings Time, so when we spring forward, she stays stationary). Everyone else is two or more hours ahead of me. Or, if you're H, 19 hours ahead. Although, in her defense, she's never called me either. LOL
Anyway, since I know I'm not on the same time as most people, I'm very diligent about checking the time before I text or call. While I know that you can easily ignore a text, I don't want someone to feel like they have to respond to me when it's bedtime for them. Or dinnertime. Apparently, a certain friend of mine isn't nearly as thoughtful because she started texting me at 5:30 this morning. I mean, I was awake - I've been up since 3:30 to be honest - but it just annoyed the hell out of me.
Am I wrong for being annoyed? It just bugs me because I feel guilty ignoring her texts, even when I'm trying to make dinner or am getting ready for bed. Maybe I care too much or maybe my mother did a number on me in regards to not offending people. Hell, I don't even know any longer.
On the bright side, LJ notified me that today is Zayne's birthday. I had to choose one to set up his journal and apparently I picked April 9th. So um, happy birthday, cowboy.
Now, I'm going to try and keep myself occupied so I don't fall asleep at my desk. Hahaha. And I promise, I'll try and stop with all these shitty posts. Oh, and if I changed my name on my journal to Cranjis McBasketball, do you think anyone would notice? Asking for a friend.
(Told you I was tired.)
The majority of my friends are all in different time zones. The closest is my BFF who is an hour ahead of me half the year (she lives in Arizona which doesn't observe Daylight Savings Time, so when we spring forward, she stays stationary). Everyone else is two or more hours ahead of me. Or, if you're H, 19 hours ahead. Although, in her defense, she's never called me either. LOL
Anyway, since I know I'm not on the same time as most people, I'm very diligent about checking the time before I text or call. While I know that you can easily ignore a text, I don't want someone to feel like they have to respond to me when it's bedtime for them. Or dinnertime. Apparently, a certain friend of mine isn't nearly as thoughtful because she started texting me at 5:30 this morning. I mean, I was awake - I've been up since 3:30 to be honest - but it just annoyed the hell out of me.
Am I wrong for being annoyed? It just bugs me because I feel guilty ignoring her texts, even when I'm trying to make dinner or am getting ready for bed. Maybe I care too much or maybe my mother did a number on me in regards to not offending people. Hell, I don't even know any longer.
On the bright side, LJ notified me that today is Zayne's birthday. I had to choose one to set up his journal and apparently I picked April 9th. So um, happy birthday, cowboy.
Now, I'm going to try and keep myself occupied so I don't fall asleep at my desk. Hahaha. And I promise, I'll try and stop with all these shitty posts. Oh, and if I changed my name on my journal to Cranjis McBasketball, do you think anyone would notice? Asking for a friend.
(Told you I was tired.)
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Date: 2019-04-10 04:22 pm (UTC)You have no obligation to answer any text ever! Not immediately, not five hours later- it's all entirely up to you. That's a concept I'm also grasping to fully understand - that virtually everything is a choice and we can choose something else.
For me, I have my phone set to send calls straight to VM and not to alert me to texts from 10pm-7am - not so much because of sleep but because I'm freaked out by even the idea of getting bad news late at night. It's only been an issue a couple of times - my sis calling to ask a question t 10:15pm and not getting me. But it matters to me not to be reachable in those hours, so I maintain that boundary.
Boundaries are hard. That's the other thing I'm learning. Well, they're not hard to set- they're work to maintain, especially when you've been raised with the mindset that it's your responsibility not to disappoint anyone ever. :}
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Date: 2019-04-10 04:48 pm (UTC)Thanks - and that's probably the hardest thing to tell myself. My 19-year-old said, "Leave her on 'read', mom. She'll figure it out." LOL
That's a really good idea, honestly. I don't have to worry about phone calls since literally no one but my mother ever calls me (and she knows I hit the hay early and wouldn't ever call after 8 unless the world was on fire). I know my phone has a do not disturb feature, I might have to put that into use soon.
They really are. I grew up (and spent most of my adulthood) watching my mother be a doormat for other people, which enrages me. She's literally the nicest, kindest, most giving person I know and selfish people seem to be drawn to her. She's finally, at 73, learning to assert herself. So, if she can do it, so can I. It's just going to take time and a heck of a lot of effort. :D
*big hugs*