Geez

[asphaltcowgrrl]

Okay, disclaimer: I'm exhausted today. Never mind how much stress I'm under at the moment. So, if this comes off exceedingly bitchy, I apologize.

The majority of my friends are all in different time zones. The closest is my BFF who is an hour ahead of me half the year (she lives in Arizona which doesn't observe Daylight Savings Time, so when we spring forward, she stays stationary). Everyone else is two or more hours ahead of me. Or, if you're H, 19 hours ahead. Although, in her defense, she's never called me either. LOL

Anyway, since I know I'm not on the same time as most people, I'm very diligent about checking the time before I text or call. While I know that you can easily ignore a text, I don't want someone to feel like they have to respond to me when it's bedtime for them. Or dinnertime. Apparently, a certain friend of mine isn't nearly as thoughtful because she started texting me at 5:30 this morning. I mean, I was awake - I've been up since 3:30 to be honest - but it just annoyed the hell out of me.

Am I wrong for being annoyed? It just bugs me because I feel guilty ignoring her texts, even when I'm trying to make dinner or am getting ready for bed. Maybe I care too much or maybe my mother did a number on me in regards to not offending people. Hell, I don't even know any longer.

On the bright side, LJ notified me that today is Zayne's birthday. I had to choose one to set up his journal and apparently I picked April 9th. So um, happy birthday, cowboy.

Now, I'm going to try and keep myself occupied so I don't fall asleep at my desk. Hahaha. And I promise, I'll try and stop with all these shitty posts. Oh, and if I changed my name on my journal to Cranjis McBasketball, do you think anyone would notice? Asking for a friend.

(Told you I was tired.)

Comments

[haldoor]

Now I want to call you, just because, but I won't, because I'm 19 hours ahead of you! HA!

In all honesty, I'd be annoyed too. It is common courtesy to think about what time it is when you send someone a message, I'd think.

And excuse the randomness of me replying on DW after replying to your posts about the kidney on LJ earlier. I'm behind, clearly!

[asphaltcowgrrl]

Hah! That would take some tricky math to figure out how and when it'd work. But yikes, I can't imagine what a call like that would cost either.

Right? I'm sure I was more annoyed than necessary, but it bugged me, too.

Don't worry about it - I post here and it cross posts to LJ. And, I never even thought about it yesterday but I was only posting updates to LJ because there isn't a DW app that I know about. I was using the LJ app on my phone.

[haldoor]

Yep! I don't tend to make many phone calls in any case. I'm the text-woman from hell though, probably. My kids may think so, anyway! ;-P

I have the LJ app too - very handy, although a bit more limited than on computer. I keep having to figure certain things out (like how to change an icon), and then I promptly forget it, plus the messages don't seem to have a way to delete them on it, so if I read them there, they sit there forever, and yet won't necessarily show up on the computer version (I don't get that at all).

DW should totally have one too!

[asphaltcowgrrl]

I honestly don't make many either. My mom called me today and that's the first call since... the last time she called me. LOL

It definitely came in handy yesterday. It was easier to update using LJ and FB than anything else. And they really should have one for DW, too! I have heard that the LJ app has some um... quirks... but that's to be expected, I guess!

[kaige68.livejournal.com]

I think that texting someone before you know them to be at work (or two hours later if it's a weekend) is out of line unless urgent or prearranged. POINT BLANK!
I know you're awake before dawn, but that doesn't mean I'd do anything but e-mail you before 8 am your time zone.

You aren't mean for think the friend is out of line.. Perhaps she doesn't know how time zones work, or perhaps she never had anyone drill that into her brain, but that's her being out of line, not you.

LOVE you - Happy Day to Zane!

[asphaltcowgrrl.livejournal.com]

Thank you for that and I think I realized why it bothers me so much. As a kid, mom drilled it into us that you never, ever call someone before 8 AM or after 8 PM unless it was an emergency. I remember when my nephew was 2, he called us at 6:30 on a Sunday morning by accident and my sister was mortified.

I do appreciate you helping me put my feelings into perspective. :)

Aw, LOVE YOU TOO! And I think he's already snuck off to start partying. IT'S TUESDAY COWBOY. Slow down, sheesh.

[kaige68.livejournal.com]

When you hear the noise out side of 'normal' hours it sends you into a panic. If my cell starts dinging at 6 in the morning it's C calling out of work and I'm a nutbag. When you're two it's understandable to think that if you are awake every one should be, but not as an adult.

That said, if you need to text or e-mail me in the next week or so to get things off your chest or just rant. Feel free to do it at any time.

[asphaltcowgrrl.livejournal.com]

Exactly that. Nothing good ever happens when your phone rings that early in the morning. Hahaha, right? Thankfully, we were up because my nephew is only a couple months older than my older girl.

Thank you. :) You might hear a lot from me next week while Troy's in the hospital and I'm at work. :)

[kaige68.livejournal.com]

That's what I'm here for!

[asphaltcowgrrl.livejournal.com]

And you do an excellent job of it, too!

[sharpiesgal.livejournal.com]

You aren't the only one who had it drilled into their head when it was an appropriate time to call/text.

Your friend was out of line.

I know you're wake around 5:30, but that's your time to prep for the day. I'm not gonna bother you until at least 8, if I have to.

But some people believe their crisis is more important. *shakes head*

Happy Birthday, Zayne. Keep the partying to a minimum.

[asphaltcowgrrl.livejournal.com]

Good, I was getting worried that I was becoming crotchety. LOL

Sadly, I'm up even earlier than that, although my 3:30 mornings are now down to 2! (And yes, I'm counting!) But I do appreciate it. And for future reference, I start work at 7:30, so that's acceptable as well. :D

The weird thing is, all she was texting about is what a gross pig her cat is. This couldn't have waited? You're right though, because she's notorious for texting to ask how my day or week has been. If I tell her I had a good day or week (which I generally do, these past couple not withstanding), she goes suspiciously silent. It's like she wants me to have a bad day so she can dump her bad day on me, too.

I need new friends. LOL

I've lost track of him already, so all bets are off on the partying. If I start hearing mariachi music, I'm calling Andy.

[sharpiesgal.livejournal.com]

Nah... Not yet....lol

I was taught never before 9am or after 9pm unless otherwise planned.

She sounds like a real peach.

Like K said you can bug me anytime next week. Might take me a bit to get back to you because of work, but rant at all you want.

If I hear trumpets, I'm heading for the hills. *gives cowboy the stink eye*

[asphaltcowgrrl.livejournal.com]

Hah, but I'm well on my way it seems. :D

Right? Seems like most of us were taught that certain hours were off limits, which makes sense.

I've known her for about 15 years and I swear, she's gone off the damn deep end lately. I used to joke that I was flypaper for drama queens and it seems like I need to dust off that mantle again.

Thanks, I really do appreciate it. And even if you weren't working, I'd never expect an immediate response. :)

Hahaha... he returned home early this morning, looking a little worse for wear, but he was in one piece, so that's good?

[sharpiesgal.livejournal.com]

Silly boy.

Andy shook his head and fixed him his Romanian hangover cure.

Jay, Jake and the girls just laughed at him.

Zayne flipped them all off and crawled off to bed in his room snuggling Jay's purple elephant.

[asphaltcowgrrl.livejournal.com]

Really should have been a pink elephant after the night Zayne had. HAHAHA. :D

Did you know that, when they show Dumbo on TV now, they take that part out and replace it with Dumbo flying? Like... we're coddling our kids way too much, I think.

[thatwasjustadream (from livejournal.com)]

I've had the people pleasing disease most of my life. One of several things I'm actively working on. Working out? Something like that.

You have no obligation to answer any text ever! Not immediately, not five hours later- it's all entirely up to you. That's a concept I'm also grasping to fully understand - that virtually everything is a choice and we can choose something else.

For me, I have my phone set to send calls straight to VM and not to alert me to texts from 10pm-7am - not so much because of sleep but because I'm freaked out by even the idea of getting bad news late at night. It's only been an issue a couple of times - my sis calling to ask a question t 10:15pm and not getting me. But it matters to me not to be reachable in those hours, so I maintain that boundary.

Boundaries are hard. That's the other thing I'm learning. Well, they're not hard to set- they're work to maintain, especially when you've been raised with the mindset that it's your responsibility not to disappoint anyone ever. :}

[asphaltcowgrrl.livejournal.com]

I'm going to blame it on us both being water babies. :D

Thanks - and that's probably the hardest thing to tell myself. My 19-year-old said, "Leave her on 'read', mom. She'll figure it out." LOL

That's a really good idea, honestly. I don't have to worry about phone calls since literally no one but my mother ever calls me (and she knows I hit the hay early and wouldn't ever call after 8 unless the world was on fire). I know my phone has a do not disturb feature, I might have to put that into use soon.

They really are. I grew up (and spent most of my adulthood) watching my mother be a doormat for other people, which enrages me. She's literally the nicest, kindest, most giving person I know and selfish people seem to be drawn to her. She's finally, at 73, learning to assert herself. So, if she can do it, so can I. It's just going to take time and a heck of a lot of effort. :D

*big hugs*